from the book: "For Men Only"*
the section: "The Man and His Marriage"
the article: "Man, The Leader"
by David W. Augsburger (radio speaker, 'The Mennonite Hour')
Comparing the authocratic personality (A) and the Christ-ocratic personality (C):
- A: gives orders without asking questions, without permitting questions
- C: asks questions, seeks to truly hear, suggests alternatives
- A: makes demands, dishes out directives, lays down the law, is defensive if challenged
- C: respects freedom and dignity of others, can affirm the truth clearly and concretely but nondefensively
- A: requires compliance regardless of consent or agreement
- C: values willing cooperation, works for open agreement and understanding
- A: pushes and manipulates one-man rule in over-under position
- C: leads, attracts, persuades personal relationships in side-by-side identification
- A: says, "You do, you must do, you ought to have done, you'd better do"
- C says, "Come, let's do, we might have done, can we try?"
- A: depends on his own external authority to motivate others
- C: depends on [others’] internal integrity to motivate them
- A: generates friction, resistance, and resentment
- C: generates acceptance, cooperation, and reconciliation
- A: separates and isolates people
- C: unites and helps persons to relate to each other
* “For Men Only: The Dynamics of Being a Man and Succeeding at It,” edited by J. Allan Peterson, Living Books, Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Illinois. 1973.
Article originally from “Cherishable: Love and Marriage,” Herald Press, Scottdale, Pa., 1971.