February 10, 2011

In love, the benefits outweigh the costs :)

"Nothing is more costly than loving, except not loving."
      - on the cover of one of my old notebooks :)

Time and again I've seen this to be true, whether the relationship is romantic or not. 

To love means to value someone, and to let that person know it... 
And true love means doing so, even if the love is not returned.

To love is to invite rejection, ridicule, and disappointment.
To love is to be vulnerable to anxiety and pain.

Costly indeed.

To not love, on the other hand, is to go from one day to the next living the same old life.
To not love is to live with no one but yourself --- alone, isolated, nothing given, nothing received.

But how much of what we learn came from other people, from relating and living with them?
None of us was born perfect; we grow from our experiences, and much of that comes from interacting with others.

And if we interact with others, do we add joy or grief to their lives? 
Do we speak blessing or cursing? Life or death?
Do we add to the good or to the evil?

Do we love?

"We love because He first loved us."
      - Apostle John, 1 John 4:19

We can only give what we ourselves have:
what we have experienced for ourselves, what we have seen is possible.
In the context of love, we can only give true, unconditional love once we have received it ourselves... the kind of love that can only come from God Himself.

May we all realize (or remember)
how unlovable we are (or were)
and that God the All-Perfect still chooses to love us

Even if we can't give back love that perfect
May we all desire to try
To love Him by our faithfulness
And to let His love flow in how we relate to others

"To love another person is to see the face of God."
      - Victor Hugo, Les Miserables

Live a life of true, godly love this February, and every day of our lives!

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